“Hey! So what diet are you on?” Now there’s a question that gets thrown around a lot in friendship circles. I’m just as guilty. What’s your “eating style”? That’s what I would call it. You know, instead of “diet”, because it sounded better…But who am I fooling. Really what I wanted to know was how my food choices stacked up to yours. It’s a game. And not one that any of us should be playing! Well I quit. I’ve recently come to some BIG realizations about diet culture, and I’ve decided to forfeit the whole damn thing. I’m out.
I started my dieting career as a Vegetarian just as I graduated High School. I didn’t have the pressures of school to keep me on track with staying thin, so I needed to try something else. I was clueless as to animal rights issues or environmental reasons to give up meat. What drew me in was the possibility of weight loss! Weren’t vegetarians all skinny?? It turns out they aren’t… When I didn’t get the results I’d hoped for, and in fact gained weight steadily over time, I decided to try Veganism, maybe that would be the trick! Nope….that wasn’t enough, I still wasn’t perfect, I still wasn’t skinny. How about Raw?! That must be it. Uncook your way to fat loss? Sure, why not! Hmmm, too hard to maintain, it’s back to Vegetarian! By then I sort of lost my belief in the whole don’t eat meat get skinny thing, so I decided to add in some fish and became Pescatarian. Eventually I found Paleo, then Low Carb Paleo, and finally Keto. Maybe, just maybe, if I cut every last freakin’ carb out of my diet I would finally have it all! Yeah….not quite.
Behind ALL of these diets was the desire to lose the weight, be effortlessly thin, finally love my body, be happy. But what I told myself initially was that it was for “health”, the environment , overall “wellness”, cleansing, detoxing, etc. Weight loss would just be a pleasant side effect, not a focus. Bull SHIT. I call total bull shit on myself. Everything I have ever done to change my diet was done to lose weight. EVERYTHING. I can 100% admit that now. I never found body acceptance and love through dieting, I found it by not dieting! At first I was mortified at this realization. I’ve built my career around nutrition and wellness! Have I steered people wrong? I wondered, is my weight loss bias sneaking into everything I have put out to clients and programs? What have I done? I don’t want to contribute to this madness anymore. I don’t want to go round and round this crazy diet cycle anymore. I want OFF! And I especially don’t want other women to go through the same thing over and over and over again, for their entire lives! So this is it, this is my chance to be the change. I have influence. I have dozens and dozens of people who I can reach and help. Instead of running and hiding in shame, I’m going to run head on into this diet culture madness and help women see the truth! Dieting doesn’t work! Labels don’t work. “Eating Styles” are bull shit.
So now what?
Now, now I’m just ME. Krista Boulding, Nutrition Coach, eating food. I eat what my body feels good eating, I eat what it asks for. And as far as the coaching goes, I will continue to help women see how consuming a diet rich in whole foods is good, but that NO diet, NO strict protocol, will ever be the answer to their weight loss goals. In fact, trying to lose weight is a sure fire way to gain weight. Yes, you read that correctly. About 2-5% of people who attempt to lose weight, actually have success with it. The rest of us (aka the majority) will either not lose at all, or lose and then gain it back. In fact, about 1/3 of the people will gain all the weight back and end up right back at ground zero, while the other 2/3’s gain even more weight back, ending up heavier than they were before! And the thing is, those “success” people, that tiny percentage who managed to control their weight and keep it off, they don’t just “manage” their weight, they micro manage the living hell out of it!! To the degree where their entire lives are built around maintaining that weight. Sound like fun? No, I didn’t think so…
So I’m not selling weight loss anymore. Not under the guise of “wellness” or “health”, not in any shape or form. If you strictly want weight loss, find another coach. If you want to be truly WELL, to love the body you’re in, to stop the bull shit, stop the dieting, and just love your life, that’s where I can help! Now there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to shed some pounds. Whether it’s for aesthetic reasons or for health, it’s natural for us to desire this. But we need to recognize is that 1) weight loss does not equal health gain, 2) weight loss does not equal happiness, 3) weight loss does not mean you will suddenly love yourself, and 4) weight loss cannot happen sustainably through restriction. I can help you understand and accept these principles with my 28 Day Wellness Bootcamp or my private coaching sessions. Let’s work together to become healthier, happier, and truly WELL!
Yours, In WELLNESS ~ Krista